“A Hero lies in you…”

November 5, 2011

It’s been a rough year – one of the toughest of my life.

Almost everything in my life has been in breakdown. It started right before the beginning of the year when I found out my ex-husband was getting married – the getting married part wasn’t the breakdown, it was the realizing how bonded I was to him so that his getting married really threw me. He thought it wouldn’t make a difference. I realized I didn’t want to be talking to someone else’s husband almost every day – even if he used to be mine.

Then my business took a nose-dive and deals I was counting on never came through – that was more than a “Whoops!” – it was, “What do I do now? Where do I go now?”

Need I go on? You’ve all been there – when it seems like nothing you do is right and it seems like you are really on the outside looking into a life that you know you should be living, but it occurs as “Well, now, how do I generate today after that THING that happened yesterday…?”

It’s what happens after that makes the difference: Every day for almost a year now, I’ve awakened in the morning to nightmares and that awful voice we all have, saying “Well, you blew it …” That’s when I create my day, the way I learned how to do, first with Transcendental Meditation, which I’ve been doing for 37 years, then with tools I learned from “A Course in Miracles” and Landmark Education. I’m really clear that we create our lives – whatever is there is a reflection of the way we’re thinking – and when all is going wrong, instead of looking out there, I know to look IN HERE!

Thankfully, every breakdown can lead to a breakthrough – and, so, for every right hook that’s thrown me sprawing on the mat, I’ve been able to get that breakthrough in my heart, where it matters – and pick myself back up with a new context for my life. Every day.

It’s not easy, but it sure is worth it.

Yes, having my ex-husband get married was life altering – and good thing!   We were too bonded together. I’ve wondered for years why I wasn’t interested in being in another relationship, and that knock-down last December helped me realize why – I had no space for anyone else in my life because Fred was too much in it!

As for career, I’ve been coaching people for years – if what you’re doing isn’t bliss for you, find out what is and do it.  Trouble is – I wasn’t taking my own advice.

Soooo….  I started my book proposal in May and finished it on October 6th – the deadline to have it into Hay House to be considered for a publishing contract. I’ve wanted to tell my story for years and kept putting it off in the name of making money. Those deals falling through were my “kick in the pants” to make me say, “Time to take on what I love, what I know I’m here for…”

I don’t think I would have finished the book proposal if I’d been making a lot of money last Spring – what’s that expression? “Change does not from comfort come.” I knew the Universe wouldn’t support me unless I was doing my heart’s desire – and writing is that for me.

The message in all of this is – pick yourself up and do what you love. No complaints, no gossip, be happy every day no matter what happens – there are blessings in everything and everybody, even if you don’t like what they’re doing right now. There are blessings everywhere — right inside the lessons.  That’s what it is to live in Grace.

I know that the place to stay centered is in me – in my heart, in my faith, in my love. I’ve created myself as “unoffendable” and I live by that – most of the time.  I know that people are just doing what they’re doing and it doesn’t mean anything about me.   And, spiritually?   It doesn’t mean anything about them either!  REALLY.    They’re just trying to survive in their own way.   It doesn’t mean anything.  AND, we make it mean something, right?  And, what we make it mean is never good about us. That voice inside my head never says, “Oh, Linda!  You are simply divine!”   (Although, I AM!)   It reminds me of Julia Roberts in “Pretty Woman” when she says, “The bad stuff is easier to believe. Ever notice that?”

Ever notice that?

I think about who I would have to be “being” for the bad stuff not to mean anything – and it turns out, if I can remember that I’m part of God and God is part of me, then I could be Being Holiness. And, when I come from Being Holiness and I think, “If I were being holiness, how would I see this situation?  How would I see this person?”   Try it.   What comes up is always compassion – and that’s what I want to live from all the time.

A hero lies in me.   And in you.  We get to choose whether to find that strength and compassion and love deep within — in the face of no agreement — or not.

Deliciously yours in the Courage of it All,  Linda

“And then a hero comes along

With the strength to carry on

And you cast your fears aside

And you know you can survive

So when you feel like hope is gone

Look inside you and be strong

And you’ll finally see the truth

That a hero lies in you.”      From “Hero” by Mariah Carey

© Linda Ruocco and “Spiritual Chocolate”, 2011. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Linda Ruocco and ”Spiritual Chocolate”  with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.  Thank you.

10 Responses to ““A Hero lies in you…””

  1. Kannik said

    Awesome and inspiring… thanks for sharing that all with us.

  2. Mary said

    Dearest Linda….You never cease to amaze me…interesting how parallel forever friends lives can run…….Mary

  3. Maura said

    Thank you for sharing! I’m inspired!

  4. Jen said

    Thank you Linda, for voicing so beautiful so much of what has been in my own heart this past year. You are courageous and you make such a difference!

    • spiritualchocolate said

      Dear Jen,
      Thank you for reading. Thank you for seeing the message and I am thrilled that it made such a difference for you! That is the whole point of these stories… I know that people are going through stuff and it does make a difference to know that others are feeling what we’re feeling… I love you! Linda

  5. Mary Miller said

    Hey Linda,

    I was so glad to see another post from you. I love that you are so vulnerable in sharing your life. The title immediately caught my attention as I had just recommended that song for an orientation. 🙂

    I recently realized that making a difference and doing what I love is not mutually exclusive. In fact, I am not serving people if I don’t do what I love. So, I put that back in.

    And, when I put that back in, someone in the Introduction Leaders Program (I was coaching her before she moved to NY) called to let me know what an extraordinary life she is living. I think she almost doesn’t believe she gets to live the life she lives.

    So, your timing is impeccable. Thank you for who you are, and stepping into what you love. It is in doing what you love that you serve people in the highest way.

    Mary from DC

  6. spiritualchocolate said

    Dear Mary, I am always happy to hear that you’ve read a post and have something to contribute to me — thank you so much for that! I’m so happy that you put that back in for yourself, too… and to hear that you continue to make such a difference in people’s lives….. Much love, Linda

  7. Diane said

    Remarkable insights and cosmic in how timely your beautifully written vingettes are for me and the world. How much time do we all spend looking for answers, chasing answers, stumbling, fumbling, hurting, confused, angry,… you get it. And there it is… right inside of each of us … a tiny ray that when allow it to shine, makes all the difference in our lives and in the lives of those around us. Yes, while a hero lies within me, you are a hero to many. Thank you Linda for sharing YOU! You are amazing…..

    • spiritualchocolate said

      Dear Diane, You take my breath away… Thank you for seeing in me what I often don’t see in myself. You are such a gift in my life! Thank you for reading…. I love you! Linda xoxo

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